Is My Son Gay? and If So its Ok!!

I read this article recently that was addressing parents who are concerned with their children's sexual orientation. It focused mainly on boy children, I quote "He likes the color pink, he enjoys playing with dolls and walking around in my heels" says his mother. In all honesty this would be of great concern to me if I were the parent, BUT according to the article this is not proof that your son will be homosexual, this applies for little girls also. There are plenty of young girls that preferr to play football or basketball rather than play dress up or house. According to the doctor in the article there is no real way to determine. It is something that parents have to watch play out. In my opinion it is important to allow children to express who they are without making them feel quilty or ashamed. As a parent you should guide their behaviors to some degree by engaging them in activities that are gender "appropriate", for example allowing your son to play sports, enrolling your daughters in dance lessons. Again based on the scientific research there is no way to guarantee your child's sexual preference. I know there will be many that disagree with me on this topic also... but I will say this, personally I do believe it is possible for a child boy or girl to be born homosexual, just the same way children are born heterosexual. I think it is a terrible misconception that all gay or lesbian people chose to be that way...one day they woke up and decided they were not attracted to the opposite sex anymore.... BS!!!! I am sure there are men and women out there that may have made a concious decision to become gay, but I am more certain this is not the case for the majority. How I know.. you ask? I know because around the age 12 I met a classmate of mine. He and I became fast friends. As you know around this age young boys and girls are going through the early phases of puberty, they are growing hair in new places, little boys are loosing their high pitch squeeky voices, girls are growing little buds where not to long before there was a flat chest, and "Jimmy" is starting to realize there is something about "Samantha" that he likes and vice versa. But this particular young man who I will referr to as "Robert" realized that he was not attracted to "Samantha" in fact he actually liked "Jimmy" more. The other school children began to question "Robert" why did'nt he have a girlfriend like the other boys...Why did'nt he play sports..and why were all his friends girls. "Robert" knew he was different and was scared to tell his peers or worse his parents what his true inner feelings were... so he hid them...and by doing so he slipped into a deep dark depression...by the age of 13 he had been admitted into the hospital 4 times for attempted suicide....Finally around age 18 "Robert" came out and admitted what we had speculated all along.. He was GAY!! And not at all by choice...come on who would choose saddness, depression, rejection, humiliation etc.


Think About This: I am sure for most of you parents out there it is a scary thought that your child may not be exactly what you envision, but try and remain supportive and open minded. Some of my best friends in the world just so happen to be gay. Gay does not mean BAD!!!!
Focus more on your children not being violent causing tragedies like Columbine and Virginia Tech or selling drugs, committing robberies and etc. that is where your concern should truly lie!!!

The Other Chick!

I have to take a moment to speak on this particular subject.

First off I need to ask a question, why do we ( referring to women)

always get angry with the women our men choose to

"cheat" on us with?

I do know that this is the reality of most relationships where there has been infidelity. We tend to blame the woman.. Who is really to blame? Is it the OTHER women's fault or are the MEN to blame?

After all it is the MAN that made the commitment to you?

Look, I know in reality that you are not going to be pleased with the other woman, but how much is she really to blame?....maybe the man feels like he is lacking something and enjoys the company of someone else...instead of acting out in anger think the situation out. If you love your man and wanna keep him do what you need to in order to perserve your relationship.. ...but you wanna know the truth... the TRUTH is that men are always going to have a thirst for a physical relationship with other women.. IT'S THEIR NATURE...but that topic is for my next blog....The point is keep everything in their respective places as I mentioned in my blog "Cut It Out" trust that your man loves YOU and wants YOU... and his random occasional rendezvous are just him satisfying his natural urge... don't focus so much on the other chick or chicks.. focus on YOU AND HIM...I will say this.. It is important that your man do what he need to do in order to protect himself and you(Safe Sex)... so try to have open and honest dialogue. I know it sounds taboo but you may be surprised with the response and the bond that begins to form between you both...the bond that you may have believed was lost will begin to strengthen!!! I PROMISE!!

Think About This: Devout your energy and time to what is important focus on what you do want in your relationship and not on what you don't!!!

Success!!!

I opened up a fortune cookie and it read "Grasp oppurtunities to create the future" I promise to hold on to this for the rest of my days...As many others I have a deep rooted issue with pride and it has caused me to miss out on some phenomenal oppurtunities..I have made a vow to do my very best in putting my pride aside in order to grab onto the great oppurtunities that may present themselves in my life....I will excersise all of my resources to create the brightest future..

Think About This: We can have whatever we want out of life!!!

Cut It Out!!!

I really felt the need to remind my self and everyone who may read this blog not to get caught up in the negativity...when you are doing your thing and focused thats when all those little demonic forces wanna oooze their way into your atmosphere be sure to put them in their respective places....do not allow those negative forces to deter you or distract you from attaining what you want....I used to spend hours wondering why we ALL had to face adversities and then it dawned on me it all boils down to the simple laws of the UNIVERSE...the Ying and Yang.. BALANCE...WE COULD NOT EXIST WITH ONLY GOOD....we need the bad to remind us to appreciate the good so dont get caught up.. just stay focused and forge ahead!!!

Think About This: How sweet will your victory be when you know you have accomplished something GREAT despite all the struggle!!!!! SWEET VICTORY!!

Nardia Blake