Forgiveness VS Stupidity

A friend of mine came to visit to me today and as girlfriends do, we started to talk about what was going on in our lives, sharing new experiences and catching up. Like always the conversation quickly turned to relationships and the DRAMA that can come along with it...After a lengthy conversation with her I started to ponder on how we as women tend to allow MEN to do some pretty horrible things to us...I realized that I too have been guilty of this very same thing...WHY? I HAVE NOT COME UP WITH AN ANSWER FOR THAT ONE YET!!.....moving on..

FORGIVENESS is one thing and STUPIDITY is her sister they are very close and it is easy to get those lines crossed. It is okay and very necessary to FORGIVE especially our significant other but we have to be very mindful to not be STUPID!!! If he keeps doing the same thing OVER AND OVER then that is just what he is and you have to accept that and move on if whatever his behavior is makes you unhappy (this applies to MEN also) Women subject themselves to more physical, mental and emotional abuse than men...we forgive and forgive and forget and keep going back for more...SEE for me that is when it turns from FORGIVENESS TO STUPIDITY...then I ask you WOMEN who can we really blame when we are all damaged and broken.....the answer to that is.. NO ONE BUT OURSELVES

Think About This: Love YOURSELF more!!! Love yourself to the point were you are unable to tolerate anyone's abuse or mistreatment on any level....be mindful to not allow your forgiveness to turn into stupidity.....

The Disobedient Prophet

There was lesson brought to me early this morning....It was such a profound lesson that I felt a dire need to share it. It comes from the Bible and is found in 1 Kings Chapter 13.... DISOBEDIENCE is one of man's greatest pitfalls and almost guarantees our DEMISE!!! I encourage all of you who may read this to go ahead and read the parable for yourself...I will paraphrase for those of you who may not have access to a bible at the moment. There was a Man anointed and blessed by God, this man of god was sent on a mission, he was to deliver a message to a King, the message was not pleasant to the King's ears so he stretched out his hand and ordered that the man of god be arrested. The moment he did so his hand withered. The King was terrified and ask the man of god to pray for him, he did and the King's hand was restored. Some onlookers witnessed what the man of god had done and ran to tell the old prophet what they had witnessed immediately, the old prophet went after the man of god and insisted that he must join him at his home for drink and feast and was told this by an angel and that he too was a prophet just like the man of god....The issue was that the man of god was given specific instructions by God that when he was done delivering the message to the King he should not stop any where for food or drink and to be sure to take a different route home than the one he had taken to get to his destination. The old prophet lied he was told no such thing by an angel. The man of god decided to go with the seemingly genuine man, after feasting the man of god went on his way and took the way he was instructed not to, possibly because it was more convenient and he was tired from his journey. Whatever the case may have been he was given very clear instructions.....well during his journey a great lion descended upon him and killed him leaving his body in the road....the story goes on a bit more....but what I learned from this is something vital to spiritual survival...It is important to be obedient to the almighty if we ignore our creator's divine instruction we leave ourselves vulnerable and susceptible to danger...it is important that we do not allow ourselves to be influenced by outside forces that tempt us to do anything other than what we have been instructed to. Initially one might think that God killed the man of god or caused him to die...but in fact God had done a great deal to prevent this man from falling into the grips of death.

Think About This: If you know that you have been given instructions by the spirit of the almighty you would be foolish not to listen. If God tells you dont go a step further i think it would be wise to listen. Dont move a inch further even if you think it is for something good wait for his instruction. Let the ALMIGHTY order your STEPS! You will always be fruitful.

A DISOBEDIENT SPIRT CAN NOT PROSPER!

The Love Complex

It is NOT ODD for two people who love each other to argue, disagree, and get angry with each other! But I do wonder is it ODD when there is a cycle of ANGER and MAKING UP that takes place on a regular basis? My next question would have to be, what is a regular basis? For the sake of this article lets say monthly... Have you ever been so angry with the person you love the most that you felt you never wanted to see or speak to them ever again?...so enraged that you wanted to ball up your fist and punch them right in the nose...lol..!!! Your FURIOUS your HURT your even a bit SAD...and you tell him(or her) that your done, you want them to leave you alone!!!! You know that you mean it....you storm through the front door and dont look back, you are completely convinced that this is it.. YOU ARE DONE!!!....... OR ARE YOU??? Within the hour your mind begins to slow down from the rage filled pacing and you suddenly have a burning urge to hear his voice, talk things through, tell him how angry he made you....but you DON'T want to be ANGRY anymore! You want nothing more than to kiss and make up, for him to tell you he is sorry...and put the whole mess behind you...This is what I wonder, what made you say you were done in the first place?...if thats obviously not what you truly felt. What is it that causes us to say and do things we dont mean to the people we LOVE?...Is it an unconscious test for our partner, an attempt on our behalf to discover how much they really care about us. This is one that has me STUMPED! Just a little food for thought.

Think About This: CHERISH the people you love, treat them with delicacy and compassion, even when your upset...be mindful of the things you say and do..there may come a day when you can't take it back or "fix it"! Think about how devastated you would feel especially if you knew the things you had said and done are not the way you really feel!

Is My Son Gay? and If So its Ok!!

I read this article recently that was addressing parents who are concerned with their children's sexual orientation. It focused mainly on boy children, I quote "He likes the color pink, he enjoys playing with dolls and walking around in my heels" says his mother. In all honesty this would be of great concern to me if I were the parent, BUT according to the article this is not proof that your son will be homosexual, this applies for little girls also. There are plenty of young girls that preferr to play football or basketball rather than play dress up or house. According to the doctor in the article there is no real way to determine. It is something that parents have to watch play out. In my opinion it is important to allow children to express who they are without making them feel quilty or ashamed. As a parent you should guide their behaviors to some degree by engaging them in activities that are gender "appropriate", for example allowing your son to play sports, enrolling your daughters in dance lessons. Again based on the scientific research there is no way to guarantee your child's sexual preference. I know there will be many that disagree with me on this topic also... but I will say this, personally I do believe it is possible for a child boy or girl to be born homosexual, just the same way children are born heterosexual. I think it is a terrible misconception that all gay or lesbian people chose to be that way...one day they woke up and decided they were not attracted to the opposite sex anymore.... BS!!!! I am sure there are men and women out there that may have made a concious decision to become gay, but I am more certain this is not the case for the majority. How I know.. you ask? I know because around the age 12 I met a classmate of mine. He and I became fast friends. As you know around this age young boys and girls are going through the early phases of puberty, they are growing hair in new places, little boys are loosing their high pitch squeeky voices, girls are growing little buds where not to long before there was a flat chest, and "Jimmy" is starting to realize there is something about "Samantha" that he likes and vice versa. But this particular young man who I will referr to as "Robert" realized that he was not attracted to "Samantha" in fact he actually liked "Jimmy" more. The other school children began to question "Robert" why did'nt he have a girlfriend like the other boys...Why did'nt he play sports..and why were all his friends girls. "Robert" knew he was different and was scared to tell his peers or worse his parents what his true inner feelings were... so he hid them...and by doing so he slipped into a deep dark depression...by the age of 13 he had been admitted into the hospital 4 times for attempted suicide....Finally around age 18 "Robert" came out and admitted what we had speculated all along.. He was GAY!! And not at all by choice...come on who would choose saddness, depression, rejection, humiliation etc.


Think About This: I am sure for most of you parents out there it is a scary thought that your child may not be exactly what you envision, but try and remain supportive and open minded. Some of my best friends in the world just so happen to be gay. Gay does not mean BAD!!!!
Focus more on your children not being violent causing tragedies like Columbine and Virginia Tech or selling drugs, committing robberies and etc. that is where your concern should truly lie!!!

The Other Chick!

I have to take a moment to speak on this particular subject.

First off I need to ask a question, why do we ( referring to women)

always get angry with the women our men choose to

"cheat" on us with?

I do know that this is the reality of most relationships where there has been infidelity. We tend to blame the woman.. Who is really to blame? Is it the OTHER women's fault or are the MEN to blame?

After all it is the MAN that made the commitment to you?

Look, I know in reality that you are not going to be pleased with the other woman, but how much is she really to blame?....maybe the man feels like he is lacking something and enjoys the company of someone else...instead of acting out in anger think the situation out. If you love your man and wanna keep him do what you need to in order to perserve your relationship.. ...but you wanna know the truth... the TRUTH is that men are always going to have a thirst for a physical relationship with other women.. IT'S THEIR NATURE...but that topic is for my next blog....The point is keep everything in their respective places as I mentioned in my blog "Cut It Out" trust that your man loves YOU and wants YOU... and his random occasional rendezvous are just him satisfying his natural urge... don't focus so much on the other chick or chicks.. focus on YOU AND HIM...I will say this.. It is important that your man do what he need to do in order to protect himself and you(Safe Sex)... so try to have open and honest dialogue. I know it sounds taboo but you may be surprised with the response and the bond that begins to form between you both...the bond that you may have believed was lost will begin to strengthen!!! I PROMISE!!

Think About This: Devout your energy and time to what is important focus on what you do want in your relationship and not on what you don't!!!

Success!!!

I opened up a fortune cookie and it read "Grasp oppurtunities to create the future" I promise to hold on to this for the rest of my days...As many others I have a deep rooted issue with pride and it has caused me to miss out on some phenomenal oppurtunities..I have made a vow to do my very best in putting my pride aside in order to grab onto the great oppurtunities that may present themselves in my life....I will excersise all of my resources to create the brightest future..

Think About This: We can have whatever we want out of life!!!

Cut It Out!!!

I really felt the need to remind my self and everyone who may read this blog not to get caught up in the negativity...when you are doing your thing and focused thats when all those little demonic forces wanna oooze their way into your atmosphere be sure to put them in their respective places....do not allow those negative forces to deter you or distract you from attaining what you want....I used to spend hours wondering why we ALL had to face adversities and then it dawned on me it all boils down to the simple laws of the UNIVERSE...the Ying and Yang.. BALANCE...WE COULD NOT EXIST WITH ONLY GOOD....we need the bad to remind us to appreciate the good so dont get caught up.. just stay focused and forge ahead!!!

Think About This: How sweet will your victory be when you know you have accomplished something GREAT despite all the struggle!!!!! SWEET VICTORY!!

Nardia Blake